Shouldn't have said that

I have a very good friend. We have been best friends for 30 years. She is one of those people you can tell anything to.

She has been on a new diet and when I saw her the other day for the first time in a week I commented on how I thought she looked like she lost weight. "Really?" she asked with a smile. "yes" I replied. "Your boobs now stick out farther than your stomach".

Now I meant that as a compliment but she looked at me and with a very straight face said, " Can we pretend that we aren't such good friends?"

It made me realize that sometimes with our family and our bestfriends, there are some things that we shouldn't share. Maybe we need to go back and treat these people with alittle more respect. Thank them like we might a stranger...send them a thank you card. Dress up to spend time with these people. And maybe we...me....need to remember to think sometimes before we speak.

So next time I will tell my friend that she looks great and leave it at that.

Life Lessons

I'm not smarter, I'm just older. That is one of my husbands favorite says these days. Life has a way of teaching all of us things that we could never imagine when we were younger.

One of these things is that even though your parents want to be your friend, now that you are an adult, that friendship comes with some restrictions.

Here are a few of them.....if you got all the way through school with your mother believing you never tried pot believe me she doesn't want to be told different now.

If you must tell some one your story about last nights bedroom activities, look at your mother and ask yourself, do you really want her to share this information with you?

If your mother is in a nursing home and about out of money, don't share this information with her, just fix it. What do you want her to do about it? I guess she could take nude shots, put them in a calender and try to sell them but do you really want her to?

We all have a right to leave this world thinking that we did a pretty good job while we were here and someone is going to miss us when we are gone. So even if your mother was crappy suck it up and lie. God will forgive you and maybe just maybe someone will do the same for you some day.

Why did I say that?

I was talking to my daughter the other day and I used the term "Everybody and their brother" she looked at me strangly and asked just what did that mean. I started to respond and realized I didn't have a clue.

If everyone is already there then wouldn't the brothers be there too?

Some other strange things that our family says are...

"Good night, sleep tight, don't let the bed bugs bite"

"Love you little, love you big, love you like a big fat pig"

"Go get the stink blown off you"

"He's rough and tough and full of flea's and never been washed above the knees"

Are there some strange things that come out of your mouth that you have know idea where they came from? Please share them.

Happy Birthday Mom

Today is my mother's birthday and even though her gentle touch and sweet smile are the same, her mind is slowly drifting to another place.


Why would I so often cringe when people would tell me through the years that I was like her?


Why is it that I now want to know all those things that she tried to tell me and I didn't listen?


Why won't she tell me how she made it through those tough times in life with such grace?


I hang my head and a tear drops....please mom, I need to know.


Just then I hear a sweet sweet sound coming from my mother..She is singing praises to her Lord. It is then I realize that not only is she giving me her secret to a happy life but she has shared it with me everyday that I can remember.


I leave my mother today singing to my Lord.

Thanks mom.

Bad News....

After cleaning out my closet and finding almost nothing fit, I found myself very depressed. There was a part of me that still didn't want to admit that I could have gained this much weight. I was thinking that maybe the humidity had gotten really high in my closet and had shrunk all my clothes.

You may laugh but I bet you came up with your own excuses...Maybe yours was "it's that time of the month" or "I had a big dinner last night". Excuses like those got me to where I am now....needing a bigger excuse.

I went shopping yesterday and either the humidity thing has been going on all over the state or it's true.....I've gained a lot of weight. It did cross my mind that maybe just maybe the factories had gotten their pattern sizes messed up but I figure what was the chances of that happening at the very same time as my humidity problem?

So now what? I'm starting with water... I know that every diet you read says to drink a lot of water so maybe that is really the key. I am going to but a bottle of water in my car and beside my chair. If I keep water with me at all times I may tend to drink it more often instead of jumping up and feeding my face....another one of my problems is I'm lazy so I figure I might as well use it for my benefit.

Please share with me some of your ways that you have added water to your life.

Tackling the Closet

I wouldn't...I couldn't ....I shouldn't...

Those are the words that kept going through my mind as I tried EVERYTHING in my closet on today. I am now putting everything that I pulled out into a very large Rubbermaid bin. I figure when I lose 10 pounds...or as I like to say...drop into another decade...I will allow myself to try them on.

Hopefully no one will die anytime soon because I found out that I don't have one thing that I could wear to a funeral.

I have gained a lot of weight in the past year and I just hadn't come to grip with the fact that nothing fits until today. On most days I would not even try to put some things on because I didn't want to face the fact that there was no way I could wear it, even if I wanted to.

If you would like to start on this journey with me then here is what you must do.

Try everything on in your closet. It doesn't matter if you just wore it or you just bought it. These do not mean you "should" wear it or that it still fits.Time has a way of going by and weight has away of slipping on. Don't forget to look at the back of you. Some of the things I tried on looked "ok" but when I looked at the back I knew I shouldn't. Also try to sit and bend over in the item. When we are over weight we tend to think that if we can get the button buttoned then it fits...this is not true.

If you truly want to save money then lose the weight. Instead of going shopping, go for a walk . If I lose ten pounds, or should I say "when", then I will allow myself to go back into the Rubbermaid bin and go "shopping".

Do you think all that trying on counts as exercise for today?